For many people, stepping in front of the camera can feel surprisingly vulnerable. As a photographer, I see this every day – people who are confident, amazing, warm, and accomplished feeling very uncomfortable when they first step in front of the camera. This is completely normal. But a bit of preparation and the right photographer can turn this uncomfortable experience into a fun experience that results in authentic images.
Whether you’re preparing for new headshots, a branding session, or a long-overdue family portrait, here are some tips to alleviate your uneasiness.
1. CHOOSE YOUR CLOTHING WISELY
Clothing that fits well will flatter you, while clothing that is baggy – instead of hiding problem spots – will make you look wider. (Remember, the camera sees in only 2 dimensions.)
In any portrait, your face is most important. Be sure your clothes don’t distract from your face. Avoid bold prints and logos (unless it’s your own company’s logo).
3/4 length sleeves are great for keeping attention off of the arms and on the face.
Wear clothes that reflect the type of business you are in. A lawyer might want to wear a suit whereas someone in the arts might want a more fashion look.
And make sure the clothing you choose makes you feel good!
2. DON’T POSE – MOVE
As you move your body naturally, your photographer will see what poses are most natural and most flattering to you. Your photographer will guide you into poses.
A few things to remember, especially if you’re being photographed by an amateur:
- if it bends, bend it
- whatever is closest to the camera looks largest – so usually you want your face to be closest to the camera
- turn 45 degrees for a more slimming look
- vary the position of your feet
- put your weight on your back leg
- relax!
3. EXPRESSION
Your photographer will coach you through expressions. Think about what you want to convey in your image. If you want to appear approachable, thinking about someone you care about helps, and let your smile reach your eyes.
4. PREPARATION
The day before, pack the clothing you’re are going to bring. Make sure it is clean and pressed. Even if you’re planning for a headshot, don’t forget to bring something presentable to wear on your bottom half!
Try to get plenty of rest and be well hydrated.
Give yourself plenty of time to arrive without feeling stressed.
Do some breathing exercises.
Small details matter because your energy shows on camera.
5. REMEMBER, YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER IS YOUR PARTNER
A great portrait isn’t about “performing” or being photogenic – it’s about collaboration. Your photographer should guide you through poses, expressions, and lighting to flatter you. You’re not expected to know what to do – that’s the photographer’s job.
Trust is the foundation of every good image.
Focus on the experience, not the outcome. Think of the photo session as:
- A chance to see yourself with fresh eyes
- A moment to celebrate where you are in life
- A chance to connect with people who are important to you
- An opportunity to step into your next chapter with confidence.
When you shift from “I hope I look okay” to “I’m here to enjoy this”, everything changes – including your photos.
